Keeping the Spark Alive, Even after Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day is a great opportunity to show your loved one how much you care about them. Every February, millions of people rush out in droves to buy chocolate, flowers, and jewelry as they get ready to exchange gifts and spend time with their partners. Most people make an effort to make their loved one feel special on Valentine’s Day. While it is of course, wonderful to have that special day to celebrate your love, it’s important to remember that showing your partner how much you care should be something you do all year long.
Making sure your partner feels loved and valued is key to keeping the spark in your relationship long term. So, how do you do this? Well, the most important thing to do is consider the things your partner seems to like. For example, have you noticed that they always seem to want more time with you? Or maybe they are elated when you have surprised them with a nice gift, like jewelry. Figuring out what makes your partner feel loved is hugely helpful in a long term relationship. Here are the five different kinds of actions you can take to show your partner how special they are to you:
Quality Time: If your partner always seems to want to spend more time with you, they might fall into the quality time category. For some people, spending time with their partner, whether it is at home or out in the world, is the most important thing. Spending time simply being together can get difficult when you have busy schedules. But it’s important to carve out this time for one another so consider scheduling it if necessary. Setting aside time to go out on dates or have nights in together can make a huge difference in your relationship.
Physical Touch: Physical touch doesn’t necessarily have to be sensual touch, though that is certainly included in this category. Touch can be anything from hand holding, a back rub, or giving your partner a kiss on the cheek as you head out the door. If this is what makes your partner feel most loved, remind yourself to show them some kind of physical affection every day.
Words of Affirmation: This one is essentially a fancier way of saying “compliment your partner.” This includes things like, “you look beautiful,” “thank you for helping me with that,” and “being around you makes me happy.” Some people simply want and need to hear you tell them your feelings.
Receiving Gifts: Once you know that getting gifts is important to your partner, this is one of the easiest things to do. Some people love having a physical representation of love. If this is your partner, you can get them traditional gifts like jewelry and flowers, or give them personal gifts that show you have been thinking of them.
Acts of Service: “Acts of service” means lightening your partners load. Everyday things like doing laundry, taking out the trash, or running an errand can make a world of difference for some people. This is because it makes people feel thought of and helped. A simple act like doing the dishes can truly bring you closer to your partner, as it can show how much you care about them.
Thinking about these five things can be a huge help to your relationship. Keep in mind that many people want a combination of these kinds of actions so you should consider doing things from every category. And, if you can’t tell what kind of things make your partner feel loved, there’s a simple solution: you should ask them. What makes your partner feel loved doesn’t have to be a mystery. Communication is the bedrock of every great relationship so make sure you understand how your partner is feeling. Then, you can take the time in your everyday life to make sure they know how much you care about them.