How do I know that I am ready to say, “I Do?!”

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Pre-wedding jitters are only natural to have with such a big day ahead. Let’s face it, planning a wedding is super stressful. However, getting cold feet and having second thoughts about marriage should definitely be addressed long before arriving at the altar. Here are some vital signs and quick tips to reassure that you’re prepared to exchange your vows and tie the knot with confidence.

  1. You can’t imagine your life without them. When asked where you see yourself years from now, your partner plays a key part of your vision. He or she is in it for the long-run and you can’t imagine anything different.
  2. You’re thinking of starting your own family. The idea of having children all of a sudden is not as foreign, or gross as you once thought of it. You imagine yourself experiencing parenthood with your significant other and the thought of raising kids together seems right and worthwhile, rather than tough and problematic.
  3. You know you can get through anything together. Whether it’s the loss of a job or a loved one, you know your partner has your back. You address and solve problems together and choose to support & motivate each other in all decision making aspects.
  4. You don’t want to be with anyone else. The thought of sleeping, yet along laying down with anyone other than your partner is repulsive.  Realizing that cheating is not only disrespectful to your partner, but also to yourself. You have it good and you don’t want to cause any potential harm to your relationship.
  5. You appreciate the little things. There’s no need for a fancy dinner or romantic night out. Running errands and simply spending time together is enough to keep you satisfied. As long as they’re with you and making an effort to be in each other’s presence.
  6. You’ve established a strong sense of trust. There’s no need to question their integrity or whether they’re telling the truth about where they’re going and who they’re going to be with. You have full trust in their commitment to you and your relationship.
  7. You can communicate smoothly. You can talk about anything. An argument is easily debunked after a good talk, even if you agree to disagree, the issues are expressed rather than kept bottled up inside of you. You feel much better after bringing up anything you’re unhappy with to your partner.
  8. You know exactly who they are. You’ve come to figure out their ways and can predict their actions. You know what they want and need, what makes them happy and what doesn’t.
  9. You’ve found yourself and know what you want. You’ve worked on yourself by spending time alone, focusing on your own personal well-being. Living on your own and dating around has helped you find what you can bring to a relationship and what you seek in a partner.
  10. Your friends and family approve. When asked what they think about your significant other, there’s nothing but positive comments. Your friends and family knows you best, and if they think there’s a problem, maybe they’re right. None of the guests at your wedding will be opposing, or any objections to your marriage. People are happy for you and know that you two are right for each other.